“I’m Fine”…….How many times have you heard that said?
Above: Commonly referred to as the black cloud or the monster in your head…
You can read about it online, you can listen to the radio or watch the TV and hear about ‘depression’ or ‘bi-polar’ and many other of the types of mental health problems that are discussed albeit still very much away from mainstream medias attention.
But what does it actually mean…
It means that for men in England and Wales aged 20-49 – suicide is the most common cause of death at present. Of course suicide is not a mental health problem per se – it is very commonly linked to mental distress however.
It’s always best to speak about what you know about…for me thats entrepreneurship and depression. Both of which have been the leading factors of my life story for as long as I can remember.
Entrepreneurs, those ‘crazy’ individuals who go all out in an effort to create and build something spectacular, to change the way we do things, bring something new to market or disrupt existing sectors are of the most common sufferers of mental health issues.
Starting a successful business is not something you just do, its something that you live, breathe and becomes your entire existence…there isn’t a 9-5 element to entrepreneurship. An entrepreneur tends to merge their own self worth and existence with that of their business and personal goals until there are no blurred lines – until work/life balance no longer exists.
Work/Life balance is bullshit.
Entrepreneurship in essence is an obsession. It stems from control over your destiny, the direction and details to grow and innovate…all at the hands of the entrepreneur. Add to the mix 3, 10, 50, 400, 3000 employees who’s livelihood is also in your hands – the pressure mounts up even further. Investor money burning every month, further pressure. Your friends don’t understand? Your wife leaves? The deal fell through? Cash in the bank burning too quickly? No one to talk to?….thats right, no one to talk to….because who else could possibly understand?
Why are 1 in 3 entrepreneurs suffering with depression?
Simple – its expectations. From others and most importantly from their self. Because of course….you’re not where you thought you would be by now are you?
I started on my entrepreneurial path very young – several little ventures along the way until starting my previous company over ten years ago. Which grew and grew, made more and more money, both the business and I were one and the same. To those ends we made a lot of enemies (people hate to see you succeed), we did incredible things in the community and for charities, we seen and heard at every event and publication. For ten years the business ran successfully – but depression rode along with me EVERY DAY. That black cloud that follows you around no matter what you do, “smile for the camera” – great another piece in the paper meanwhile in the back of your mind depression keeps chewing away or the million other times of the day when you just want to lock yourself away and escape. Best sales month every? Who cares….Landed a fantastic project with a new client? Great, but it wasn’t big enough….Hired 2 new staff to boost development…yes but X Y and Z.
Eventually I found my ‘divider’ – the piece I needed to separate life and work….when I found out I was to become a father. That gave me what I needed to step down, walk away and breath for the first time in over a decade. Get away from expectations and the 120mph life.
The cost of entrepreneurship is high, when we see so many of our brightest entrepreneurs committing suicide (Jody Sherman, Ovik Banerjee, Matt Berman, Aaron Schwartz and so many more) you have to step back and take stock as to why this is happening and what we can do to help.
World Mental Health Day & What you can do
It began in 1992 as an initiative by the World Federation for Mental Health – a global organisation who every year with a different theme aim to bring attention and awareness to mental health issues around the globe.
As to what you can do…that varies on an individual basis….but most importantly….speak to someone….anyone.
Find a way of dividing your time between work and life….a hobby….thats what they used to tell me…find a hobby to distract you. Easier said than done when you are obsessed with work. But find something that can ease the pain.
Take care of your mental state, your body and your family – every piece is crucial, look up Brad Feld – a well known VC who suffers with depression who talks openly about it, or Jerry Colonna – the entrepreneurs ‘therapist’ that suffers and helps those who suffer get through the hard times.
Drop me a message, an email a tweet, whatever…entrepreneurship is hard.
Read more here about World Mental Health day and how you can support: http://metro.co.uk/2016/10/09/world-mental-health-day-what-is-it-and-why-is-it-important-6181925/